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25 August 2018

How I became a bridezilla.

Maj Valencia Nuvali Wedding

The devil definitely wears prada and most of the time wears red.

I was such a different person before, during, and after our wedding. Sure, people think that it's the most important day for the bride and the groom... but I think they forget that weddings are not just the union of two people. It's a union of families, traditions, beliefs, and cultures.

Today, I share with you how I became a bridezilla...


You might be wondering what triggered this wedding blogpost and why just now. Well, I suddenly remembered that I wanted to review our wedding suppliers here in the blog and I wanted to share with you a few more funny and horrible stories while I was planning our wedding.

I'm not the nicest person you'll ever know. I mean, I actually consider myself a horrible person because I'm very frank to the point that I hurt people. I'm also more logical and not very emotional. Aside from those traits, I also have this attitude where I imagine a number of scenarios and if it doens't go right, I get pissed. Oh hey, I also have a RBF!


Let's start with the small things...

1. The wedding date and time!

Did you know that there's an auspicious day and time to get married? Oh, and I had to make sure it didn't fall in the year-of-the-this-the-that... I had to consider our birthdays, and there was also a lucky hour of the day. I couldn't get married on Monday... I couldn't get married in the evening... I couldn't choose the ber-months. I had all these things to consider. Ugh. Do you know how many people get married everyday? Just imagine having to consider all these factors and you're just getting started...

2. The places...

Choosing a church was pretty easy. Having to pick a schedule was hard. But after those two things, you still have to find a reception and the hotel...

There was one time where we traveled from Alabang to Tagaytay to Silang, Cavite just to search for churches, venues, and hotels... it's pretty tiring honestly and we're consuming a lot of money for the gas, the toll gates, the food... and we could only look for venues during the weekends because Reg was in Bataan during weekdays.

Now, imagine having to pencil-book yourself to these locations and basically fighting for your date...

3. The suppliers...

You need to find credible wedding suppliers. Weddings cost hundreds of thousands to millions and people will really take advantage of you. You have to do a TON of research and you have to go to wedding fairs because you can get them at discounted prices...

4. Wedding fairs...

Such a horrible place to be! Imagine being surrounded by 500 other couples who are looking for the same people as you. It's so crowded... It's so hot... You'll get dizzy... Then you see that the OFW couples send their parents and titas to the wedding fair and you're feeling like "WTF, I could do that? I should've stayed at home instead!" and then I realize oh, I don't have a mom anymore, well that sucks...

5. Getting overwhelming now...

"What's your theme?" That's the first thing suppliers will ask you and I honestly don't have one. Reg and I just wanted to get things over with as quickly as possible and we didn't give a damn what a freaking theme was. But hey, you still need to have a theme because hundreds of people will soon ask you the same question and you're now pressured to make a theme up...

Oh, guess what, your family doesn't like this wedding venue, this church, this theme, this design, this item on the menu... and even if they're not footing the bill, you got to make this right because it's not just your face that's at stake... it's also your family's reputation. 

6. Now, it's becoming a show...

Everybody wants to upstage someone else in the family. You might think "I honestly don't care" but girl, you have to care because there's now this tension building within your family and the choices that you make...

7. The gowns...

I hate my gown, especially the designer... We'll save that for another blogpost... but girl, imagine you've only got two weeks and you hate everything, nothing's going right... it's still not finished... it looks horrible and hey, you paid thousands and thousands of pesos for it and the stress. Good times, right?

8. The guestlist...

We have to send invitations to everyone in the family for formality. What if they all say yes? Can they all fit in the venue? You now have to change your guestlist from 180 to 300. You have to send a hundred invitations and pay tons of cash for the shipping. Hey, remember that family friend or relative you don't like? Yup, we're inviting them too!

9. Missing mom...

"If my mom was alive, my wedding planning would've been done in a month... Oh yeah, guess what, she's gone now. She didn't make it in time because your boyfriend took too long to propose..." Oh, wait, is this an issue that's being brought up?

There's a lot of bottled feelings and it's just so easy to lash out...

10. Making decisions as husband and wife...

"Babe, do you want a fog or bubble machine for your church entrance?"
"I don't care."
"Just give me an answer"
"I don't freaking give a damn about a bubble machine!"
"Why are you shouting at me!? I also don't give a damn about a bubble machine!"

This is truly us fighting over a stupid bubble machine that no one even wanted.

All we wanted was to get through the day, get married, and be together legally.


I was just too overwhelmed with my mom's passing and then getting engaged, and then having to plan a big wedding... everything was happening so fast, I couldn't keep up... it was just so easy to be angry at everyone for the smallest things...

I'm so glad that it's all over now! Such a relief. There were a lot of fights, but hey, I made it. We made it. It's done now and I don't ever want to plan a wedding ever again! 


P.S.
Make sure to apologize to everyone for acting such a btch and hopefully, they'll understand and forgive you. 

Also, if someone close to you just passed, don't plan a big wedding or you'll definitely end up as a bridezilla too!





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